Throw Away that Self Sabotage Beaty-Stick
“Love is the missing alchemist in much of today's personal development world. And it's the KEY ingredient in REAL MAGIC + shadow work. When we see that our patterns are unconsciously - innocently - being created from some story of our little wounded girl, only then can we choose to soften and see what's really there. ”
~ Nicole Barton
🪄🖤 THROW AWAY THAT SELF SABOTAGE BEATY-STICK 🖤🪄
Let's cut through the social feed and get really - lovingly - honest for a moment.
One of the major reasons powerful women have big visions - to create freedom via businesses from their gifts - and yet they continue to PLAY SMALL (despite knowing that they are here for more) is that they self-sabotage.
And my heart kinda bristles at the phrase "self-sabotage" because I know the women I typically work with at this point get out their beaty-sticks and start criticizing themselves for not "doing more". For not taking action.
Usually because they are stuck in a loop between hustling v doing nothing.
Deep down, they know their patterns of procrastination, distraction, delaying and avoiding taking action on their visions are themselves blocking themselves and their dreams to create more aligned lives.
And their inner perfectionist comes in and says "why can't you just be perfect and take more action - why can't you just change this block?"
They criticise.
And it breaks my heart that we've been taught in the world of self-development to push and beat ourselves up. 💔
Because at the point of criticism for this pattern, we are self-sabotaging ourselves STILL.
That's not to say we should go into Victim, either though - it's important to own our creation of self-sabotage.
AND the ONLY true way to do this HONESTLY is with LOVE. Not by adding even more layers of shadow.
💥 TRUTH: Love is the missing alchemist in much of today's personal development world.
And it's the KEY ingredient in REAL MAGIC + shadow work.
When we see that our patterns are unconsciously - innocently - being created from some story of our little wounded girl, only then can we choose to soften and see what's really there.
🌹 We can open, we can be tender, we can return to love.
And from love, there are always new possibilities.
Ones including:
♥️ Illuminating more about the true, deeper shadow that's keeping us in this pattern (there will be something deeper underlying your self-sabotaging, but we can only see the truth of it from love)
♥️ Loving ourselves in that pattern and letting our inner child know she is safe to move towards her vision
♥️ Giving ourselves permission for our big vision
♥️ Feeling into what's the most aligned-action to take (one that nourishes our soul, rather than depletes it)
♥️ Choosing it fully.
Beating ourselves up will never create more flow.
Neither will simply rejecting the hustle and "trusting the universe". Both are from unconscious blocks.
🪄 There's a place beyond that, which your soul knows. A place where, when we devote to LOVE and ALIGNMENT, more gets revealed and healed. If we allow that.
LET'S MAKE THAT BEATY-STICK A MAGIC WAND.
Which part of you needs love in order for you to choose that? ♥️
if you've any questions, send me an email.
Nicole x
