Ep 130 - Self-love for the Secret Witch - the power you keep forgetting you already have
WITH nicole barton
On the Secret Witch Show today, Nicole is exploring the deeper truth of self-love - not the fluffy, bubble-bath version we see everywhere in February, but the raw, often uncomfortable, Rosa-coded kind that meets us right in the places we feel unlovable. Speaking to the Secret Witch who keeps pushing through her tight-chested tension, armouring herself in capability, and abandoning her own needs in fear of disappointing others, she invites us to notice where we’ve been living as a closed bud - braced, tense, performing ‘I’m fine’ - instead of softening open into the tenderness our magic actually requires.
In this episode we explore why self-love isn’t a luxury but the foundation of a Witch’s power; how the ‘Archetypal Rosa’ wound compels us to override our bodies and earn love through self-abandonment; and the real, embodied moment Nicole chose differently - cancelling her day, offering herself softness, and risking being ‘too much’ or ‘not enough’ in order to come back home to herself. This is a gentle and powerful invitation into wholeness - into welcoming all parts of ourselves, tending our shadow with love, and remembering the power we keep forgetting we already have.
What You’ll Learn from this Episode:
Self-love isn’t superficial - it’s the foundation of a Witch’s magic, the inner relationship that makes everything else in our lives possible.
The Rosa wound is the pattern that makes Secret Witches override their needs, perform capability, and earn love through self-abandonment - even as their bodies whisper for softness.
Wholeness isn’t perfection; it is the radical act of welcoming all of ourselves home - shadow, fear, doubt and tenderness included.
The moment we soften instead of armour, choosing our needs even when it feels undeserved, is the moment our inner Rosa begins to bloom.
Practical self-love is both the deep inner work of meeting ourselves in shame and the tender rituals of devotion - tiny acts of beauty, presence and self-honouring.
When a Secret Witch chooses to love herself in the exact place she once abandoned herself, her power strengthens, her magic opens, and she becomes truly unstoppable.
Resources and Things that We Spoke About:
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Nicole and Team Secret Witch xox
